For one person, two people, a household or a team
Hard conversations. Better terms.
Work out what you actually want to say, and — if you want — say it with the other person here too. Each of you gives your own account privately, and the guidance is built from both. It never decides who won.
Free. No card. Invite someone only if you want to.
You
Guide
How it works
Three steps, and you can stop after any of them.
Talk privately to your guide. Work out what actually bothered you, and what you want out of saying it.
Nothing you have already written becomes visible simply because they join. Most people use it alone for a while first.
Independent perspectives first, then the things you already agree on, then the things you do not — one at a time.
On screen
This is the actual product.
Not a mockup. These are screenshots of the running application, with demo content written for the purpose — nobody’s real writing is on this page.
Why it is different
Four things a chat window cannot do.
Two independent perspectives
Neither person reads the other’s account until both are written. Not as etiquette — the moment you read their version, your own quietly reorganises itself around it. Then both appear at once, with what you already agree on named separately from what is actually disputed.
Your own private guide
You each have one, and it knows your history rather than starting from nothing every time. It never briefs the other person, and it never tells them there was anything to know.
Context that stays private
Private material can shape what your guide suggests to you without ever entering a shared session — because a shared session runs on a separate path that cannot read it, not on a filter that could be misconfigured.
It learns from what helped
Ratings change the style — shorter, blunter, more options. Debriefs do the harder thing: they record whether the suggestion actually worked. An approach can be gratefully received and leave the argument exactly where it was.
Why not just use ChatGPT or Claude?
For a one-off question, do — they are genuinely good at the question in front of them. What a chat window has no structure for is a second person, a boundary between what you would say out loud and what you would not, and whether last month’s suggestion actually worked.
Before, during, after
A disagreement has a life longer than the row.
Most of the damage is done before it starts and after it ends — in how it gets raised, and in whether anything actually changed.
Before
Say it however it comes out, pick what you want from saying it, and get a version you could actually send. Nothing reaches anybody until you share that one thing deliberately.
Works when the other person never joins.
During
Both accounts first, then one issue at a time with the rest explicitly parked rather than dropped. If it is escalating rather than settling, it says so and stops rather than coaching through it.
After
A short debrief, answered separately — what was resolved, what was not, whether you felt heard. Neither of you sees the other’s answers.
The same argument four times is four arguments, unless something between them is different.
Privacy you can see
Three levels. You pick one every time you write.
Not a settings page you visited once. The level is on screen while you type, and it decides what the other person can ever see.
Used in sessions you do together, and in anything you both look at. This is the only level that ever reaches them.
Yours. Your guide can use it to help you. You can share a specific item later if you decide to, one at a time.
Never quoted, summarised, counted in a total, or hinted at. Excluded from shared figures before they are calculated, not filtered out afterwards.
The two limits on the strongest level are a small number of serious safety cases and lawful process — neither of them the other person, and both written out in full rather than hidden behind a percentage. The whole privacy model, including how it is enforced.
Who it is for
Not only couples.
A space holds one relationship. Whether anyone else is in it is up to you.
Plan a hard conversation, or keep a private record of how things are going. Nobody has to be invited, ever.
Each of you gets your own private guide, plus sessions built only from what you have both shared.
Arrangements, handovers and the things that keep being renegotiated — with a record of what was agreed.
More than two people in one space, for the things that involve everybody. Private stays private for each of them.
Money, mess, guests, noise — the ordinary things nobody wants to be the one to raise.
A disagreement with a colleague, or an expectation nobody actually agreed to. Not an HR system.
Pricing
Features are free. AI is what costs money.
We don’t charge you to unlock relationship features — there is no part of OnBetterTerms a free account cannot use. What costs real money is the AI itself, so that is the only thing metered.
The free plan includes $2.00 of AI credit a month — about 13 typical replies — and 30 minutes of voice transcription. When it runs out, AI pauses until the month resets. Nothing is charged and nothing accrues. Plus and Together buy a larger allowance, and nothing else.
You’re paying for compute, not permission.
The goal is not to get good at talking to this.
It is to get through the conversation with the person. Nothing here asks you back daily, there is no streak to keep, no score on your relationship, and a check-in meant to take ten seconds takes ten seconds.
A tool for hard conversations that quietly became the easier place to have them would have failed at the only thing it is for.
Start with the conversation already on your mind.
Free, no card, nobody else has to know — and you can delete everything, including anything you imported, at any time.